We all speak about stress.  But what is it? What do we mean when we say we are stressed?  Stress is the nervous system response to what we PERCEIVE as a stressor.

The key point here is that our perception has a lot to do with what we find stressful and how stressed we feel about something.  Stressors can be life experiences but also our own thoughts can trigger stress.

So the first lesson in learning to reduce stress is to begin to pay attention to how we perceive or interpret the things we feel are stressful.  So why not start by saying: this is how I see and interpret this situation, person, etc. and it is one way of seeing it, there are likely other ways to see it.